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Saturday, August 19, 2006

你給別人的,其實是給自己

你給別人的,其實是給自己

不論你傷害誰,就長遠來看,你都是傷害到你自己,或釦A現在並沒有覺知,但它一定會繞回來。n凡你對別人所做的,就是對自己做,這是歷來最偉大的教誨。
不管你對別人做了什麼,那個真正接收的人,並不是別人,而是你自己;
同理,當你給予他人,當你為別人付出,那個真正獲利的也不是別人,而是你自己。




某天,小張要去相親,因為沒有看過對方,擔心她長得太醜,於是交代朋友,十分鐘後call他的手機,這樣他就可以藉機遁逃。
到了約會地點之後,小張發現女方驚為天人,於是心想,等一下手機響不要回就好了。
沒想到,美女的手機這時候響了起來,美女聽了兩秒後,對小張說:「對不起,朋友有急事找我,我要先走了……」



有一個男人在派對上對男主人說:「今天的美女真多,要是待會兒我泡上一個,你可不可以把樓上的房間借我一用。」
主人說:「那你老婆怎麼辦?」
這人說:「放心,她不會想念我的,我只失縱一下而已。」
主人說:「我不是說這個,我是說十五分鐘前,她才向我借了樓上的房間。」



有一個老光棍,他並沒有什麼嗜好,只是喜歡在睡覺前喝一點葡萄酒自娛。
然而,他發現這幾天有人偷了他的酒。
他便懷疑偷酒的是他的佣人,於是就把酒倒出來,再裝入他的小便。
但裝小便的酒,仍然每天減少。他很不高興的把佣人叫來,責備一番。
「不,我並沒有偷喝」佣人說:「我是想做味道更香更可口的菜給您吃,
所以我每天燒菜時,都加了一點在裡面。」



從這三則短文中各位有沒有發現什麼共通之處呢?
沒錯,你怎麼對別人,別人就怎麼對你;你給別人什麼,別人就回報你什麼。
說得更白一點就是,你給別人的,其實是給自己的。就像我在前面說過的,不管你丟出去什麼,或是想了、說了、做了什麼,最後都會回到你身上,不是嗎?你給別人的,其實是給自己。
自食惡果的事說都說不完,讓我們再聽下面的故事:
在一家簡陋的酒館裡,正在喝大杯啤酒的李先生,突然覺得內急,他匆匆忙忙站了起來,又想到上廁所時,酒可能被別人偷喝,猶豫一會後,他找到一張紙,寫上「我吐口水在這裡」,把它放在杯子下面,然後才放心的去上廁所。
過了幾分鐘後,李先生回來時,他看到另一張紙寫道:「我也吐了一口在這裡。哈!」



從前有個人,他很不喜歡喝咖啡,但是他太太並不知道,他從來沒告訴過她。
她非常喜歡喝咖啡,所以每天早上都會順便為他準備一個熱水瓶的咖啡,跟他的便當礎b一起。n他一直都帶著那個便當和熱水瓶去工作,但是因為他很節儉,所以每天晚上都會把那個熱水瓶帶回家,裡面的咖啡完全沒有被動到。
他知道太太很喜歡喝咖啡,為了要省錢,所以當她沒看到的時候,他會將沒有喝的咖啡倒回咖啡壺裡。
晚上的時候他會用喝咖啡使他睡不著的理由把它推掉。
就這樣他每天都重複這麼做。有一天,她的太太認識了另一個男人,他們計劃好要毒害他,以獲取巨額的保險金,於是她每天早上都放少量的砒霜在他的熱水瓶裡,日復一日,直到最後她毒死了她自己。



你給別人的,其實是給自己的。你說是不是呢?
你所給予的,都會回到你身上。
如果你對人冷淡,別人也會回以冷漠;
如果你經常批評別人,你也會接收到釵h的批評;n如果你總是瞻@張臭臉,沒錯,別人也不會給你好臉色。n所有你所給予的,都會回到你身上。
套句詩人奧登(W.H.Auden)的話:「人受惡意之作弄,必作惡以回報。」
如果你陷害別人,哪天你也會遭人陷害。
同樣的道理,當你帶給別人歡樂,你就會得到歡樂;
帶給別人祝福,你就會得到別人的祝福;
如果你經常讚美別人,不久你也會聽到有人在讚美你。
「你給別人的,其實是給自己的」
你讓他人經歷什麼,有一天你也將自己經歷;
你怎麼對待你的父母,將來你的孩子也會怎麼對待你。



釵h人一定聽過,格林童話中有一則關於一位老人和兒子住在一起的故事。n老人的耳力已經不行了,眼睛也看不見,顫抖的雙手經常把飯菜洒得滿地,碗也常打破,兒子夫婦倆感到非常厭煩,給老爸爸一付木製碗筷,把他趕到廚房幽暗的角落,不准和大家一起用嚏Cn有一天,兒子看到自己的兒子用刀片消木頭,他好奇的問孩子要做什麼。
結果孩子回答:「我在替你準備將來要用的木碗、木筷。」
從此以後,年老的父親又回到嶽鄐W吃飯,家人也都非常孝順他。n


農夫的哲理
地球是圓的,整個世界都在繞著圈子,不論你傷害誰,就長遠來看,你都是傷害到你自己,或釦A現在並沒有覺知,但它一定會繞回來。n所以,如果你佔了別人什麼便宜,先別得意,很快你就會為此付出代價;
反過來,若是別人對你做了什麼,你也無需氣憤,不必去報復,任何他們所做的,他們都將自食惡果。
「凡你對別人所做的,就是對自己所做的。」這是歷來最偉大的教誨。
不管你對別人做了什麼,那個真正接收的人,並不是別人,而是你自己;
同理,當你給予他人,當你為別人付出,那個真正獲利的也不是別人,而是你自己。
有一個農夫的玉米品種,每年都榮獲最佳產品獎,而他也總是將自己的冠軍種籽,毫不吝惜地分贈給其他農友。
有人問他為什麼這麼大方?
他說:「我對別人好,其實是為自己好。風吹著花粉四處飛散,如果鄰家播種的是次等的種籽,在傳粉的過程中,自然會影響我的玉米品質。因此,我很樂意其他農友都播種同一優良品種。」
他的話看似簡單卻深富哲理,凡你對別人所做的,就是對自己所做的。所以,凡事你希望自己得到的,你必須先讓別人得到。
【保證有效的秘方】
就像那個農夫一樣,如果你想要得到冠軍的品種,就要給別人冠軍的種籽。
你若想被愛,就要先去愛人;
你期望被人關心,就要先去關心別人;
你要想別人對你好,就要先對別人好。
這是一個保證有效的秘方,可以適用在任何情況。
如果你希望交到真心的朋友,你就必須先對朋友真心,然後你會發現朋友也開始對你真心;如果你希望快樂,那就去帶給別人快樂,不久你就會發現自己愈來愈快樂。
明白了嗎?我們所能為自己做的最好的事情,就是去為他人多做點好事。
己所欲,施於人。凡你想給予自己的經驗,就給予別人;想別人怎麼對你,就怎麼對待別人。


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世上只有快樂好,

快樂最好的方法是多好事,

要做好事最好的就是對別人好。

是的,對別人好,就是快樂,也是送給自己最好的禮物。

 

 

 

i want to add somemore here is that  what i gave my friends , all that are sincere and kind , i never think to get anything from them .. however , i get the worst consequences than ever . yet , i know , what i gave them , is the lesson to treat somebody sincerely while didnt hurt youself . i gave all the things with sincerely and at the same time , im unconsciously hurting myself , thats why , what my friends give me back was the hurts

Fear

i could feel it is coming , what is coming ? STPM lor .. ermm .. maybe i should say something that is in my life's third turning point . well .. although i always said that it does not a big probelm , but if i can did well , it will be a big good result for me .. but how good is good leh ? i doubt . many ppl said i didnt work as hard as i should/ i could , but i feel i done my best wor .. i just dont want to be too stress , it is really tension and i try to make it easy , im just do what my ability afford to do , yeah , i can do better , why dont i ? cause i  dont want my life so tension lor .. it is mentally stress ok ? nobody knows how hard you every try , but they just physically see how bad are you , keep blaming or critic , but they never think another way round , i might did worse than now . sigh .. but  i really could feel the coming of it . i want to work hard from now !! i'll never know how much , how hard i did , but i have no regret before and after cause i already did what i afford to do , compared to other or not , i feel im more lucky and hardworking , there is nothing can destory your life or your future because it is in your hand and there are still many roads and ways in front of us , why should we think it negatively ?  i believe , if we never give up , there are still chances . you might miss it once , but there are still many in front of us , as long as you never regret the chances you had miss out . i hold my chance now , i never give up and i keep climbing up , i never want to miss it  ,  im chasing it ..  my responsibility , my chance , my target , my greedy , my priority .. STPM phobia , STPM nightmare , im sure would beat it down with my best try .. i have no fear .. lets work together buddies ~

Tuesday, August 15, 2006

我是个极嫉妒心高的人。我很自私,我早就发觉这一点,我现在回想我身边的朋友大概都很不喜欢我这点吧,可是谁不自私的,为什么我不能自私?为什么我一定要对别人好,可是却换来别人的冷眼相待。我真心付出,诚恳对待别人,我不望回报,可是为什么给我报复?这是我应该得到的吗?我在犹疑,是我内疚?还是我不想历史再次重演?不想再发生的可怜结局,不想再次经历。我肯定,我的朋友一定再次说我死性不改,他们觉得不对的是我,而我,一再地为自己的错在辩护,掩饰,从不知悔改。这也是我心淡的一点,原来我是这么不值得被别人掩护。我该清醒,还是继续沉寂下去?不是我昏倒,而是我从来都醒不来。我一再地维持这些友情,这也是他们所谓的冷血吗?自私吗?是我在等待下次机会再去占我的朋友的便宜吗?我在等待机会利用我所谓好的朋友吗?我就是他们眼中的这种人。我不想再与我的朋友相遇,即使是擦身而过,或是远远相望,是我没有勇气去面对了,还是我不想看见我不想看见的那一幕?我很害怕遇到这些情况,因为不好的事情中会成真,更不好的事情总是意料之外。我希望一切都可以快点有个断点,就让一切平静下来吧,我恐怕不再有任何勇气与信心了。我已选择走另一条路,我希望我的路能由我的掌控,愿我的道路上不再与他们相遇,给我有走下去的力量,离开我吧。这是一场恶梦,最近又回来了。感觉是陌生人,可是却又那么地熟悉。我恨不得想把记忆里的都删除掉。我了解当不再有感情了,连回忆都是种负荷。我就是一直背负着这些负荷,越背越累,使我无法呼吸。人心啊,是那么的脆弱,也那么地无可预测

Sunday, August 13, 2006

im back ~

phiew~~~~~~~~~~~~ take a deep breath first ... finally my trial had gone ~~ hahahaha .. stress pls .. er. ..but actually not really also geh .. coz jz randomly study what im interestiing and im very du lan with my teachers liao too .. coz they kept rush all the syllabus while we never could catch 'em up .. so . they rush i rush too .. they want done their works with this kind of ' reponsibility' thus i jz did my 'reponsibility' like this too ..  i dislike this school , ppl , management as well .. too tension .. too stress , not a good place to get knowledge . not every teachers r dedicate , although what they teach , what they did for us , they feel that tats all what they can do for us , ow our own good , but they 4got one thing , they miss a thing , we are not wanna all the knowledge from the books only , besides that , we need how to be a individual who is able to stand in the society , we should learn how to communicate with other , the way we have our experience in our life , not only those theories and concepts from books , this is what i cannot learn from my school . coming soon is our semester two final year end exam again , but i think , there will be a lots of tests , intensive weekly tests b4 final exam comes .. sigh .. this is what my schoo did  .. the tradition .. im really dissapointed with the msia education system .. so noob .. and also our new bak lah .. aihs... y arr .. i wonder who is the next prime minister and wat would happen to msia .. poorer and poorer .. argh ..  but before i could tackle with tat , i shud be able tackle with my stduy currently . 94 days left to go to stpm .. i still doubting what shud i do ? i admitted that this trial i reli didnt care much on it .. hehe .. coz it was a stpid exam .. i dont think this can reflect what would happend in my stpm .. honestly , this trial was not test for our understanding n preparation for exam , but test for how great is ur memorizing ability and ur high IQ and ur intelligence .. lolx .. 4 days to stduy all the subjects , yes , there is a human could do that , but how 'high' is the probability to find such human leh ? i doubt it . im aggresive , but i want to enjoy my life ttoo . but seniors would say no free meal in this world , if u never tatse bitter , u would never what is sweet , u should sacrifice before u succeed . yes , i know that and i accept it . but when i saw so many people suffer and get tension , i doubt there will be a better way in front of them . everything has its limit , it depends how you go through . our life is a plain paper  , it depends how we make it coulourful .. everybody hopes it will be as colourful as it can , or even better than other . but .. it is not a simple task lor .. i cannot wait for my coming long holiday , but before it comes , i have to suffer for 94 days ++ 3 weeks guar ... some people said that not really a great graduated caould earn big money , or very succeed in ife , but i dont think that never educated/ low educated could as succeed as the other . ya there are ppl did that , but how many r they ? im not looking down the other , but , we should be appreciate that nowadays we could havin education .. maybe some of them never experience thus they never how is that feeling .. this is what people called ' learn from experience ' . hence , no experience before , so we could never learn . hahahah .. but if we got the experience , we would regret what we had done .. lolx ........ tml .. 14.08.2006 , i will start my hard jobs again till tthe end of my exam !! a zA a Za fighting !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! n again .. i disconnect with here :~  but i have no regret ...  hehehe ~
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